Is There Such a Thing As The Perfect Partner?

Is There Such a Thing As The Perfect Partner? 

Tall, dark, and handsome or average height with a GSOH and a winning smile? What are the must-haves and mustn’t-haves when it comes to the type of partner you’re looking for and are you looking for them in the right place?

According to the BBC, a video of a man from New York complaining that his height holds him back in the dating realm has once again reignited the debate over whether height is important for women when looking for a partner. YouGov research conducted in 2014 seemed to confirm that for UK singles at least, women prefer their prospective partners to be slightly above average in height. Is height important for you? Let’s take a look at some of the other factors potential dates may need to measure up against…

Your age range

For some, age is just a number but many of us find immediate common ground to be shared with those who remember the same big events as they grew up, had a similar education and are at similar ages in their lives. If you’d like to narrow your search to a particular age range for online dating, you can use filters to define your lower and maximum age limit. Or skip a stage by heading to a site dedicated to your target age range like https://www.over40datingsite.co.uk. If you’d rather not narrow the field by defining an age limit and you’re tempted to knock a few years off your age in the hope it will make your profile more appealing – do consider the potential consequences. Think about the awkward chat you’ll need to have if you do start dating someone long term and you might just  remember that honesty is always the best policy.

Shared interests

When we search for a partner, we’re usually looking for someone we can spend time and share things with, so it makes sense that we seek out people with shared interests. But could your quest to find someone ‘just like you’ be holding you back from finding someone you like, and vice versa? Holding widely different life values can be a true deal breaker, but dating someone who’s into hobbies that aren’t so similar to yours could be more fun than you think.

Learning a new skill or activity with someone who is passionate about it could lead to a new interest of your own or at the very least, some added life experience. If you tend to have a dating ‘type’ but none of your previous relationships have worked out – is it time you headed in a different direction? While you might not want to sign up for a date spent white water rafting if you’re more of a theatre and supper kind of gal, a bit of compromise in this area could go a long way when it comes to opening up new possibilities.

Personality type

Before internet dating we relied on friends and family or chance encounters to help us set up dates. A good smile can help someone to appear like a friendly and approachable type but there’s no real way of knowing whether someone is a good match for your personality before you get chatting. That said, you can get an inkling of whether you might be a good fit by being aware of your own personality type. Taking a Myers Briggs Type Indicator test can help you to uncover if you’re an introvert or extrovert type and provide insight on how you’re likely to fit with other personality types. You don’t need to use your test results as a shopping list for a partner with an exact personality type, but you may find the information useful in helping you pinpoint why some potential partners just don’t feel like a good fit.

Commitment potential

It’s not always first-date-chat fodder, but the level of commitment you’re after will need to be a steer when seeking out a new partner and needs to be discussed to ensure you’re on the same page. If you’re recently divorced, you may be looking for a partner for activities rather than something long term. For those with one eye on marriage, the good news is there is plenty of romance in the air. According to the stats, more over 65s are getting married in the UK than ever before. If you’d like to get married – whether for the first time or not –  be sure to be honest with yourself and any potential partners about what you’d ideally like the future to hold.

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What’s on your dating checklist? Do your dates fall within a specific height or age range or do they all need to be as into cooking or climbing as you are?

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