The Importance of Healthy Communication in a Family Split

The Importance of Healthy Communication in a Family Split

A family separation can represent a series of challenges. Some of them might be procedural and technical – like deciding who’ll get the kids on what day. Others might be emotional. In order to secure the healthiest possible outcome for everyone, it’s vital that both parties to the split are still able to talk to one another. Let’s explore the importance of healthy communication in a family split below.

The Benefits of Civil Communication for Co-Parenting

Civility is a good thing for several reasons. At a time when you might be tempted to snipe at one another, it can be difficult to swallow those negative feelings, and keep things cordial. But by doing so, you’ll be able to clearly set out your expectations, and create a healthy, supportive environment for your children at a time of uncertainty.

In some cases, it might be worth bringing in an outside mediator. This person will be able to sit in on discussions without taking sides, and help to ensure that those discussions remain productive.

Minimising Conflict with Clear Boundaries and Agreements

In many cases, conflict during this time arises over disputes. One party might think that they’re entitled to do a certain thing at a certain time, like turn up at a former residence; another party might disagree.

You can avoid these points of tension by anticipating them. What are you likely to disagree over? Can you come to an agreement ahead of time? Generally speaking, it’s much easier to decide on these things early and avoid the conflict in the first place.

In some cases, resolving a dispute might involve the courts. However, seeking help from lawyers specialising in alternative dispute resolution methods, like the aforementioned mediation, can often be extremely powerful. 

Putting Children First with Empathetic Communication

Talking to children at this stage often means working out what you’re going to say, and how you’re going to say it, well in advance. Make sure that you don’t give them any false hope, and that you’re reasonably direct and certain in what you’re saying. But also, be empathetic and sensitive to how they might react. 

Professional Support and Mediation for Healthy Outcomes

There are a number of different kinds of special support that can be very useful at times like these. Mediation can reduce conflict and promote co-operation – provided that both parties truly perceive the mediator to be impartial. Therapists, counsellors, and mental health professionals can also help adults and children deal with the emotions that come along with a separation. Ideally, you’ll want to arrive at a situation where you can see your former partner without feeling any negative emotions, and maintain a good, productive relationship with them – but the priority in any situation involving children should be their welfare.

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