Surprise Your Loved One with a Gift Based on Their Love Language

Surprise Your Loved One with a Gift Based on Their Love Language

There are five basic love languages, and they’ve all been “discovered” in 1992 in a book by Gary Chapman, a pastor who used to counsel many couples. After a few years of work, he began noticing a few patterns in their behaviours, and they were all in consideration of misunderstanding one’s needs. The book contains a thorough explanation of definitions and guidance for each, so if people relate to one love language, they can let their partner know and vice versa. Therefore, this will help a couple behave in a way that appeals to only their love needs so that relationships can be saved. 

Although there are many reasons marriages end, and their complexity cannot be limited to a simple article, it’s safe to say that people part ways due to poor communication. This aspect destroys numerous relationships because people don’t know how to express their needs adequately, mainly because they think they’re childish. In fact, these little requirements are decisive for a long-term rapport.

So, let’s see what are these love languages and what gifts are best in accordance with them. 

• First things first, what to offer a person whose love language is receiving gifts?

It may sound easy to offer gifts to your partner if they absolutely adore receiving things. Don’t confuse this love language with being materialistic because it’s all about feeling loved when accepting a thoughtful gift. 

That’s why personalised gifts are best for this type of partner. So, whether your companion likes to study and you offer them a unique notebook, or they’re into hiking and give them a specially made backpack, be sure they’ll appreciate it more than anything. At the same time, they’ll treasure the gift forever and the time spent creating or devising the plan because this shows them you think of them and know them well. 

• What do you give someone who cherishes quality time besides…time? 

For people whose love language is quality time, things seem simple because all you have to do is spend time with them as much as possible. This means prioritising their presence when you’re together, so less time scrolling on your phone or working on the computer. Time for you as a couple should be spent actively and sincerely doing things together, like watching a movie, talking or even just taking a nap.

Some lovely ideas for gifts include things that involve both of you. For example, you can offer them a poster where you can insert photos of the places you’ve been on a date or a relationship-themed game card. 

At the same time, you can get matching things together, such as personalised water bottles, especially if you go to the same school, office or travel a lot together. These kinds of gifts show that you cherish the person you’re with and want to have some sort of connection with them at any time. 

• Is small talk suitable for people who treasure words of affirmation?

A person’s language words of affirmation is someone who expresses their love and admiration through spoken words. This doesn’t mean only talking about how great they are, but sending them love notes or text messages and showing love and uplifting quotes that encourage them and make them feel appreciated. 

For this type of love language, you can get them a cute, customisable book where you write a few things you love about them. Some lovely heart-shaped puzzles contain love notes when it’s completed. If you’re the romantic type, you can leave them amorous messages from the bedroom on their way to the bathroom or kitchen in the morning. 

These small gestures show that you still adore them, even after a few months or years into the relationship, strengthening their admiration and respect for you. 

• Acts of service or taking your partner’s weight off their shoulders 

Acts of service are sometimes confused with doing everything for your partner while they live a happy life. This is far from the truth and is the opposite of acts of service as a love language. The true meaning behind this type of appreciation lies in observing what they’re most pressured about and lending a hand to make things more bearable. 

For example, if your partner is from another country and has moved in with you in your native country, you can surprise them by taking them out to dinner at a restaurant with a specific cuisine similar to their home food. Or, if they’re usually an organised person but are not thrilled about washing the dishes, you can do that for them. Of course, this type of love language should be controlled somehow because it may happen for partners to get too comfortable and rely too much on your services. 

• Love language as physical touch isn’t only what you think about 

In a relationship, physical touch is more lovable and intense at the beginning of your bond, after which things aren’t that new and exciting anymore. This might lead to overthinking when the other partner wonders if you’ve lost interest or if something about them makes you less affectionate. 

But when it comes to showing you love them through physical touch, you don’t need to feel pressured about doing something special. Holding hands, touching their shoulders or simply next to one another when chilling at home is enough. Some thrilling gifts you can get include a touch bracelet that is usually used in long-distance relationships. Both of you wear the bracelet on your wrists and are connected to an app, so when you enter it, the other’s bracelet vibrates as a sign that you’re thinking about them. You can also get some massage oil with their favourite scent to massage your hands, feet or back. 

Final thoughts 

Accepting and cherishing your partner’s love language is only one of the many steps you should take in order for the relationship to work. With respect from both parties, constant struggle and willingness, you’ll be together forever and live happily ever after. 

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